Are You True To Yourself?

"Are You True To Yourself" seems to be very simple and easy and sounds like the easiest thing ever. But when you go deep in it, it is the most difficult thing you ever will find. 

Let me put a very difficult question to all my readers, are you true to yourself? Most of you must be thinking how can this be the most difficult question? but indeed it is. And almost everyone's answer will be yes and there will only be few who will say no they aren't true to themselves. Before I let you know the main reason behind asking you this question, I will explain what does "Are You True To Yourself" means? 

Do you remember your new year resolution that you took with lots of excitement and energy?

If you do, are you going through it? And if you don't remember then what to say. Here if you are going through it, then you are following your new year resolution without any excuses and without lying yourself, and you are being true to yourself that's great. Keep going.

Do you swipe your alarm to snooze?

We set the alarm and make a promise to ourselves that we will be waking up the next morning as per the alarm and will go for a walk, go to the gym, do meditation and the list goes on. But only a few are able to keep their promise and the rest are not being true to themselves and have adopted a habit of swiping the alarm to snooze, which is not a good habit.

Have you ever argued on the statements where you are lying someone (i.e. you made a mistake or you are wrong on a statement, but also you are arguing assuming that you are right )?

We often see two types of people around us. One who will simply admit their mistakes and will apologize for it. And the other who will never admit or who will confidentially admit that they never made any mistakes and they assume as if they are not lying, but these type of persons are the ones who are being untrue to themselves. The persons who admit their mistake keeping their ego aside are the ones who are true to themselves.

And finally, if you are supporting a toxic person who is himself being untrue to himself, in this case, you are also being untrue to yourself. But if you leave such toxic people and are not supporting them in any kind of such untrue activity, you will end up being true to yourself. 

Again I want to put the same difficult question to all my readers, are you true to yourself? I hope after reading the mentioned points, now you will be able to identify are you actually true to yourself.

The main reason to put this question at the beginning was to know how true you were to yourself before knowing the mentioned points and the reason to put the same question again at the end is to know are you ready to accept your faults and mistakes that you misunderstood about yourself and won't let anyone walk into your way of being true to yourself.

There is a beautiful quotation by Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (urf Mahatma Gandhi) “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." I want each one of you to apply the same in your life and don't let anyone walk through your mind with their dirty feet and make you untrue to yourself. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF.   

    

        

Inspiration

Inspiration means being encouraged by the actions of a person or anything that inspires you to do better. According to me, "Inspiration is the only thing you can find in everything visual to you nearby". Many of you would be wondered that how can anything visual inspires us as we are only inspired by some particular motivational speakers, public figures, storytellers, movies and so on. Let me put on some examples to make this statement of mine clear.

How do you feel when you see a beggar? 90 to 95% of us would feel sad for them and might think how hard is their life, they have to beg for a living and many more. I also fall under that 90 to 95%, but there is something more than that I feel and see about them. Have you ever thought for a while that they are still alive ( I mean to say their source is only begging and they fulfilling their basic needs by begging) and just think for a new company to survive in a market, they have to go through many difficulties, they have had to make their marketing strategy strong and  many more things they need to do. If you get what I wanted to let you know that's great if not, then let me explain it to you. I see a beggar from a different perspective they are very smart, they know who will be a customer for them and how to approach a customer for a beg, what kind of approach would be effective for higher profit i.e. getting more money and the level of commitment is really to next level, even if 10/20 people ignore them, they show the same level of commitment to the next person. And they are flexible as well. They are still alive in begging, so just imagine how flexible their approaches would be to beg every day and to get money.

This is how they inspire me. The salesperson should take inspiration from them😆😆 (i.e. in spite of being ignored by a lot of customers, how can they still show the same level of commitment to approach new customers). They are smarter enough than we have ever thought of. 

Have you ever been inspired by trees or plants? Yes, trees and plants. They too inspire us. We have only seen trees and plants from the perspective of oxygen giving machine, improving air quality, conserving water, preserving soil, supporting wildlife and many more. But apart from this, we can get inspirations as well. In spite of whatever the weather condition is, they stand strong and in spite of our activity i.e. we are harming the environment, polluting the environment, cutting down the trees and many more, they never step back off their responsibility (i.e. they provide us oxygen,  improve air quality, conserve water, preserve soil, support wildlife), they are still standing and doing their work. 

When you will see it the way I do, you will find they inspire us to stay strong whatever be the situation and also if someone or something disturbs you or someone is using you, or someone had hurt you, never forget your responsibility, never forget your duty and standing and doing our work. Don't let someone's else activity affect you and your responsibility.

I hope these examples have made my statement "Inspiration is the only thing you can find in everything visual to you nearby" is clear. But this statement will only be applicable if you change the way you look at things and look it from a different perspective.

Wish you have a great time. God bless you. Stay inspired.   

                

Assumptions & Overthinking Kills

Everyone is having some problem in their life and they believe they are the only one who has problems and lastly they assume that their problems are the biggest problem one can ever have. But there is something more than this, i.e. problems are not so big as they assume. Their assumption and overthinking is something that makes the problem look big. 

Without any doubt, everyone has some or other problems in their life. And when someone assumes their problem as the biggest problem, they are not wrong here but their assumption is wrong. Sometimes the problem seems to be too small, but the overthinking of a person makes it too large that they are worried about the consequences which have not even arrived. In such situations, we can't blame a person for such kind of worries, but someone who is to be blamed is their assumption and overthinking. Let me explain this with the help of some examples: -

This is something which is always fresh in mind i.e. I went to Dehradun, India for my graduation, it was the first day of my hostel life and for the first time, I was away from my home and alone literally alone (I don't know anyone there, no friends, no relatives, new place, new faces, new environment and all alone). After the admission procedure was done, the college administration allotted me the hostel and after dropping me in the hostel and arranging the room, my parents leave and went back home. From the moment they leave and up to the next few weeks I was just blaming myself to take such a big wrong decision and assuming that I made the biggest mistake, the problem of my life by choosing Dehradun a place for my graduation (due to family attachments, being with people whom I have never been with, and many more reasons). But now when I look back, I assure that my assumptions were wrong at that time not my decisions. I feel proud that I took that decision. Who I am now is due to that one biggest problem of my life by choosing Dehradun a place for my graduation (perhaps a wrong assumption). 

So we can see it is sometimes our assumptions, overthinking or a situation which makes us feel that the problem is the biggest.       

During my final research report for graduation five to six months ago, I was having a problem i.e. from where and how can I get out the prints before a day of submission (i.e. it was a Leather Binding which was not easily available nearby), so it was a matter to be worried for me. Up to now, it is like I am worried about the prints, this is a problem for me and I am assuming and thinking it is the biggest problem but then I called my friend and explained the situation. After listening to me, he was like arey yeh toh hogyega 3/4 gante mein (i.e. it will be done in three to four hours don't worry).

See the problem which I assumed the biggest was not big, but my assumptions were. Clear your assumptions, don't overthink. 

Life gives equal opportunities and chances to all of us. Everyone is having equal problems in their respective life, it is we who assumes and makes wrong assumptions about problems and consider them as the biggest problem one can ever have. As everything has some exceptions, here as well there is an exception that few people take their problems lightly and assume it as a small thing. And the consequences they received finally is the success they deserved as they never overthink and never made any assumptions which were never there. There is a famous quote by Sukhraj S. Dhillon, "Don't think too much. You'll create a problem that wasn't even there in the first place".  

    

                                   ACT WISELY.!!

Until When..?

90% of us upload or share status, posts regarding rape cases, harassment, sexual abuse and many more whenever one takes place and also we quote or mention with a hashtag saying #saynotorape, #saynotoharassment, #stopsexualabuse and many more... But have we ever tried to take any small step to stop it or anything like that? Now you people must be thinking what small steps we can take right?.

Have we ever slapped the person if found committing this heinous crime for abusing or harassing anyone, be it somebody very dear to us or even a known face?
Have we ever taught our friends/elders/family members not to indulge in such kind of activities if something doesn't seem right? ( Believe me, it happens behind closed doors of our neighborhood too)
Have we ever tried to ask public transportation authorities to install CCTV camera in public vehicles? Are the victims allowed to express their grief freely? They can't because the society will directly or indirectly blame the victim at last.

Everyone says education is a must, but there are cases where the teachers are the main criminal behind those activities. ( No offense but there are some).

And we see in the news that the person is arrested for doing this, for doing that but do we know or ever tried to know that the person is punished or not? What happens once the boiling blood comes down?
Every such case is highlighted like nothing else is important for a period of time but then it vanishes.

I am not blaming anyone of you but I am blaming everyone of us including myself for not taking any such steps.
Let's make a change.
Let's raise our voices.
Let victims be free to express their pain.
Let's change the way we see things.
If something wrong is happening speak up... Our silence today will harm many of us in future.

Life: A loop of changing time.

We often hear, Life is uncertain,future is unpredictable.  Life is really an amazing surprise which can give you a lot of happiness as well as sadness both at the  time. We never know how time changes. If today time is in your favour, tomorrow or the some other day it may seem to be against you. That's also the reason why many great personalities  have quoted that time in not in ones favour forever. I have experienced many live examples where time has changed so frequently that the life of a particular person totally changed in comparison to his/her past. These changes are sometimes good as well as bad for a person. These changes bring both happiness and sadness for that particular person.  I would like to take an example of a case where the life of a newly married girl  totally changed. The case which I am discussing here is based on how time changes in a positive and in a negative way. Positive way means how happy she is because of changed time and negative way means how unhappy she is because of changed time. She feels happy because she will be spending her entire life with the person she has always loved or has  life with, and  feels unhappy because she  left her home and her parents with whom she had spend her life till date. Also she had to change the living standards as well as she had to adjust in the new family with new rules, cultures, religion and many more. 

In conclusion of the above mentioned case, we can see how the life of a newly married girl changes in a moment. I don't mean to say that one shouldn't marry or one shouldn't go with their loved ones but I mean to say that the family where she is going to spend her entire new life should help her in adjusting new things, should support her for the things she doesn't know instead of blaming her or harassing her for the things that she doesn't know or she is not perfect in.

Another case that I am discussing here is about  relationships. In relationships also you can see how time changes in positive and in a negative way. Positive way reflects how a person is happy being in a relationship were they find someone with whom they can share their feelings, happiness, problems and so on. And similarly the negative way reflects that how being in a relationship impact in someone's personal life. When you are in a relationship, you have to divide your time accordingly so that you can spend quality time with your partner. The main problem with the person in relationship is when they  doubt their partners and when they have trust issues.I have seen many people who come to me and discuss about their relationship problems and  complain about nothing being right, "I have to spend my most of the time with them, I have to clear that he/she is just my friend, "it is really hard to always explain each and everything to our partners in case a doubt arises about the things we do or about late replies and the complains continue..

As we are very much aware about the fact that everything has good impact as well as bad impact. So is the case with the relationships.  Relationships also have both positive as well as negative impact but I don't mean that one shouldn't be in a relationship. If someone is or wants to be in a relationship, they must have trust on their partners and shouldn't doubt their partners activity and also they should let their partners be free from all kind of restrictions, because if in case there is trust issue or any kind of doubt in a relationship, it won't be long lasting.

As per the above two cases, time brings positive as well as negative impact on everyone's life. It depends on us how we deal with the situations and how well we understand it. And we should never regret for any thing that goes wrong  because the time will travel from bad to good in short span of time.

“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” 

― Andy Warhol

Justice for Nirmala

So it's been more than 150days that an incident took place in a small city of Nepal, Mahendra Nagar. An incident that took a life of an innocent girl who even doesn't have an idea what really happened to her. She was raped and murdered. Even after more than 150 days, she hasn't got justice.
This incident has captured the eye of each and every citizen of the country, but don't know why the government is not able to give justice to a 14-year girl, to her family, and to whole Nepalese citizen. Many innocent lives are sacrificed for a single justice. Each and every possible way had been tired by the family and the citizens to get justice, but-but our country which was known for peace-loving nation is unable to provide justice for Nirmala. Our government has failed to provide justice even after a 151st day.
This shows our government is not capable of providing justice for a 14-year girl but also talks about participating in UN peace operations. How can a government who is unable to maintain peace and provide justice within the country could participate in such huge operations strange.....
Every citizen is waiting just a justice from government. For saving a few criminals, You are hurting the sentiments of 29,777,062 innocent citizens. You are elected for the welfare of the citizens and the nation. Do your duty. If someone(i.e. a citizen or a VIPs) has done something wrong, they should be punished...

For the first time in history, Nepal has adopted a constitution which is supposed to be representative of the Nepali people, but we don't think it is really a representative of Nepali citizens...!!
We need justice..
   Justice for Nirmala...
       We need justice...!!

Attachment and Detachment in Life

Though there are only four letters in “LIFE” but it in itself has a huge meaning. A life is a duration from the day we came into this world and till the date, we leave this world or we also can say the existence of an individual human being or animal.  We come to know about a lot of things in this duration. We experience many things, which help us to learn more about people's thinking, their living style or their life.
In this manner, there is a lot of attachment and detachment in our daily life. So what are the attachment and detachment in life that we should go for or follow? It is very important for us to identify them and to apply in our daily life.

An attachment means when we are attached to a particular thing that makes us happy or satisfy us but in the long-term leads to anger, sadness and so on( in most of the cases), whereas a detachment means when we are separated from a particular thing that is bad for us and help us to gain long-term happiness( not applied for all and in all cases).
Attachment and detachment differ from person to person or we can also say that it differs from mentality to mentality. For someone attaching towards something bad can be good for them, whereas for someone detaching from something good can be bad because everyone is having a different perspective towards viewing a particular situation. 

We are attached not only to people but to almost everything. Anger, jealousy, sadness, greed, selfishness, and arrogance are the results of attachment. We become angry because we are so attached to being right and being perfect. And that's where we get wrong. We don't understand that we can be wrong and others can be right. And that's the main cause of detachments whereas when someone calls us right when someone understands our insecurities we get attached to that person, and here life goes. 

See as I had mentioned in the above para, attaching towards a particular thing can make us happy or satisfy us but in the long-term leads to many difficulties, this is something similar to the law of marginal utility .i.e. "when we consume more and more unit of the same product, the marginal utility goes on diminishing. In most of the cases, the attachment is similar to the law of marginal utility, i.e. when we are attached to something, the satisfaction level is on top for some duration but when time passes, the satisfaction level goes on decreasing and which may lead to the separation from that particular thing. So we can also say that attachment and detachment are interrelated, where there is an attachment, there will be a detachment in near future.

Some of the exceptions of attachment and detachment are:-

1.  Family
2.  Positive thinking
3. Social awareness
4. Self-less sacrifices in service of others
5. Books.

So the above-mentioned things are the exceptions of attachment because when we are attached to the family, positive thinking, social awareness, self-less sacrifices in service of others and books and so on, we will surely be happy and satisfied one day in future.

And similarly, when we are detached from the above-mentioned things, they won't lead to long-term happiness and satisfaction, so we should attach these things in our life for gaining happiness and success.

But when we are attached to drugs, negative energy or negative thinking, mobile/electronic devices and so on, they will provide us the pleasure for a short duration but will lead to many difficulties in the near future, so these things should be detached from life.

So finally I would like to conclude this blog here only by saying that life is all about ups and downs, uncertainties, good days, bad days, but we should be aware of what things we should attach and what are the things that we should detach from our life to make a successful and happy life.