Khuda Haafiz dua o mein yaad rakhna

"Khuda Haafiz dua o mein yaad rakhna", you must have heard this phrase many times in the past and many of you might have used it. I came through this phrase just an hour ago when I was watching a new movie directed by Faruk Kabir and produced by Kumar Mangat Pathak and Abhishek Pathak under Panorama Studios "Khuda Haafiz". You can find Vidyut Jammwal and Shivaleeka Oberoi as a leading actor and actress. Firstly, I would like to congratulate the whole team for delivering such a great movie which teaches us a few valuable lessons, although it's all scripted² but also we can always learn something from everything around. I hope this blog might help you to learn a few things as well. Happy Reading.

We live in a society where a victim¹ is treated more badly than the culprit. An acid victim is not given proper respect and opportunity in comparison with normal person. A Coivd-19 patient who fought with this virus when he goes home is seen as an evil-doer by the people around. A rape victim has to face a lot of difficulty just because she was raped and her virginity is lost. And this list goes on. We keep spreading tweets, posts but at the end of the day we are a part of this same society. We actually don't follow any of the things we share or spread, even I sometimes have not followed the things I share. So let us not be like the politicians for whom "Promises are made to be broken", the phrase is best suited. 

Khuda Haafiz is an action thriller film where one of the world's top martial artists has played a really great role. We have always seen Vidyut as an action hero but in this movie he unleashes fury and layers it with emotions and he nailed it. The movie shows how one has to move to the gulf countries for a job during the financial crises and how we can be misguided by the agents and the brokers. Although it's all scripted but we can see even in our country many youths were misguided and manipulated by some agents and brokers that have ruined many lives of youths and are stocked in some gulf countries forcefully because they don't have any other option. And when we hear such stories we feel bad about them and their family. So what if we don't let that happen in the first place? Yes it's not that easy to find a job despite being capable in most of the cases but it’s not impossible right? There are good people who value your talent more than your relationship with any high profile person. I just want to ask a question to everyone who is in their present position or designation just because of their relation with any high profile person, do you feel proud? Yes you might be proud for being in that position but do you really from within feel proud? I don't think you do because you are not in general capable of that position. And again it's all your choice. EVERYONE IS FREE TO MAKE CHOICES. But be kind and humble and respectful because what goes around comes around. 

Also if going abroad is the only option make sure you go through an authorized agent and study & cross-check each and every detail that is being provided.

Now coming back to the movie although it's all scripted but despite of being a victim of forced prostitution trafficking the love and respect for a girl was not even decreased a bit that shows when we love and care a soul rather than the physical appearance then nothing can stop us from accepting someone who might be the victim of the worst thing ever. It's about soul to soul connection rather than the outer beauty. As I above mention we live in a society where a victim is treated more badly than the culprit, this is true and the main reason behind this is because we are attached and attracted towards outer beauty or  outer appearance and the inner connection is missing. 

• Why is a victim of acid attack having fewer opportunities?
• Why a victim of rape is treated unmannerly?
• Why do we judge someone on our outer self?

Because:-

• We don't realize the inner soul of that person.
• We forget that we are also a soul not the body.
• We judge the outer self and ignore the real talent we want a good looking person on our office desk.
• And because we have lost the connection between the inner self or inner soul.

Hope you liked things I quoted above. Hope we will try to figure out the connection between inner souls and will not judge someone just because of their outer self. Thank you. Stay Safe.

NOTE¹: Although I have written a victim everywhere above but what I think is we should denote and respect them by calling as a real survivor. They are not the victims, they are the real survivor, real hero.

NOTE²: I have quoted although it's all scripted many times above because everything is scripted in this world. Our birth was scripted, failure, success, death everything is scripted and we go and learn from it. So every movie can be a good lesson if we focus more on the positive side.

When Together, What Matters?

I had a conversation with one of my friends after a long time. Ya literally a long time. After 12th I guess today we genuinely talked (like not just replying in stories or leaving a happy birthday wish and many more wishes like that). So it's been 4/5 years since we hadn't talked. I will not be sharing my experience how I feel but I am going to share a few important things I noticed in his talks and also will share what made me write about those things and why I am sharing this all with you.

Firstly, I should feel lucky that he shared his relationship issue with me and that's how we talked today ha-ha might be funny but it's like a friend in need is a friend indeed I guess. So when I say about relationship issues many of you can relate this and can make a good impact on your relationship after giving it a read. You might be aware of a few things or almost everything that I am going to write about, but why I want each one of you to read this completely is because sometimes we just need to hear or read someone else's words or stories to apply things we already knew. Happy Reading.

"INSPIRED BY HIS STORY TO ASPIRE OTHERS."

Things that he mentioned and I find them important are as follows:-

• Expectations in a Relationship: - The best part of our conversation was discussing this part. He was like we are not all Buddha to not expect anything from our loved ones or nor I will go and sit under a tree neither will be enlightened 😂 as I have to do many things right now. He expected something from his partner and that's common in a relationship. Everyone expects to be loved, cared the same way he/she is giving it and it's okay. Though I keep saying we should not expect anything as it will only hurt you but keeping expectations is a nature in this material world. It's hard not to expect anything in return from our loved ones in this material world as expecting more than enough will end-up hurting you, but it's possible to have no expectation as well. Though it's a hard core process, you need a lot of patience, self-control, emotional control and self-realization but it's possible. So still I say if possible don't expect anything, just keep doing your part, if you are in a relationship keep doing the part of a partner, if you are in a company keep doing the part of an employee and much more but it's a hard-core process. And it's all up to you. That was just a suggestion.

 

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  Priority: - It's not about how busy you are, it's all about what and whom you prioritize. In a relationship priorities play an important role for a succession and a failure. Even in this time when everything is almost closed if your partner tries to prioritize something even more than you and keep ignoring you for weeks (read this again, just don't judge me by reading the first sentence), then it definitely hurts you right? Ya it's their choice to prioritize whatever they want but treating their partner like a pendulum & not making things clear is not good I guess. If you prioritize your partner then even in the busiest schedule you can leave them a text or a call but again priority matters. What I want to suggest in this part is even if you prioritize something more than your partner, that's totally okay but at least you should let your partner know about the priority you are focusing on and make things clear. CLARITY & UNDERSTANDING IS A FOUNDATION OF A RELATIONSHIP.

• Keeping Self-Respect & Ego Aside: - In most of the cases one of the partners has to go through a war between their mind & heart i.e. mind says if someone ignores you continuously, then don't disturb them by texting or making calls because your self-respect also has some-respect and their heart says hmm you can give one more try and keep your self-respect & ego aside. And as always their heart wins and they let their self-respect aside even more than what their partner deserves. And this is the story of many relationships. In this part I want to say truth is bitter, it's hard to accept the truth but it's better to accept it as soon as possible and try to move on(ya I know it's easy to say but do you have any other options? NO?, SO KEEP MOVING ON). Accept the facts and keep moving.

So these were a few things we discussed for an hour. And he knows every what to do and what not to do things that I wrote here but as I mentioned at the beginning of the blog that sometimes we just need to hear from someone to feel better and to apply these things. Now I wish everything is fine with him and his relationship issue is solved. I want to add a few more things before I end-up this.

• Value the word RELATIONSHIP.
• Acting childish is cute in a relationship but you should understand when to act maturely.
• Don't be in a relationship to overcome your past or to overcome your loneliness.
• It's hard to have a strong relationship with a weak foundation.
• Don't judge your partner at a glance.
• Long-distance relationships are not an easy thing. It requires a lot of patience, trust and understanding. So just don't take any decision without understanding the situation. 
• Single misunderstanding can make a relationship hell out of heaven. And everyone prefers HEAVEN I GUESS.

 

Never make a decision in anger, and never make a promise in happiness.!!

What Happens After DEATH?

Talking about scientific reasons you can go through [https://allthatsinteresting.com/what-happens-when-you-die] this link and have proper knowledge of it. And talking about human-generated reasons and society there are a lot of things that take place after somebody dies. I will be sharing a few things that I have experienced theoretically as I can't experience it practically & then share my experiences. I hope after giving it a read many unanswered questions, topics, discussions, confessions might be answered, discussed & confessed respectively so that there will be no regret for the future. Happy reading.

There is a famous quote "People only care after you are dead", I exactly don't remember who quoted this but this thing is greater than it appears. We develop a tendency of not valuing something we have at the moment and then regretting when it's gone. It can be anything time, people, moments, anything. Just a very fresh example can be in this time of the pandemic where a few things that needed to be valued are our health & the time we have. But only a few of us are able to value these things and use them in a better manner. Even the Government of many countries have failed to value things that needed to be valued the most in this time of crisis.

How does the society react to the death of somebody they might have known? Let me quote a few statements below that we usually hear after one somebody's death:-

• He/she was such a great person.
• You will be missed forever.
• He/she leaves us too early.
• You leave a lot of memories behind.
• Accepting the reality you are no more with us is quite hard for us, & many such things.

And at the moment someone dies we are so unreal that I wonder we are the same person who ignored their calls, texts when they were with us when they needed us the most and then we act as if it really matters.!!

We are like coins. Firstly we won't even care for someone's existence, their greatness, loyalty, caring nature, and on the other side, we will be expressing our sympathy when someone is gone forever. Can't we change sympathy over empathy? 

I have a humble request to each one of you who has made this long read to be kind and humble to everyone you meet. If you miss someone just say it. If you really have great memories with someone express it. If you really care for someone's existence do let them know it. If they really matter to you keep checking on them because it's better to express it to the person's living soul than to their graves. It's better to live with no regret than to have regret throughout your life.

Well each one of us is well aware of these things. But we are not able to work on it. It can be sometimes an ego that doesn't allow us to express ourselves but don't you think regret is greater than ego?

This Too Shall Pass

"If your good time can be changed into a bad time, then how can you expect your bad time to stay forever with you."

I hope the title is well clear to understand what the blog is gonna be like. Stay home, stay safe.

The COVID-19 has spread all over the world and has made us lock ourselves at home and forced us to have social distancing which is essential for us, as it will not allow the virus to spread & harm humankind anymore. This is quite a hard time for every one of us and every one of us should come together ( that doesn't mean to have a gathering🤣🤣, but to work together and support each other i.e. by staying at home and by following social distancing) to fight this pandemic and as everyone is well known about an "African Proverb, If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together", so in this pandemic, we don't want to lose our lives but wants to go far and live long and that's only possible when we go together. Let's follow the lockdown, let's keep social distancing & let's fight this together to go far.

In the past decades, the world has gone through several pandemics which caused a lot of deaths and damaged humankind but then everything came to normal. It is hard for us to believe that everything will come to normal because our generation hasn't experienced any such pandemic till now. To make a bit clear sense that THIS TOO SHALL PASS, let's have a look over a few examples of disasters that we have seen.

Amazon Rainforest Fire;- Amazon rainforest which is considered as the lungs of the planet, generating 20% of the world's oxygen & 10% of the world's known biodiversity, was burning at a rate not seen in almost a decade, the fires raged through villages, destroyed ecosystems & pumped climate-warming pollution into the atmosphere. But after sometimes, the fire was in control, everything was normal than that of at the time of the fire.

Australia Bushfires;- Dozens of fires erupted in New South Wales, Australia, prompting the government to declare a state of emergency in November 2019. Fires rapidly spread across all states to become some of the most devastating on record. The fires have killed people and destroyed some 2,500 homes. An estimated 1.25 billion animals have been lost. And thousands of people's lives were disrupted but then the rains helped and everything was going back to normal.

2015 NEPAL EARTHQUAKE;- Most of the Nepalese reading this right now must have the 2015 Nepal Earthquake fresh in your minds. You must still remember the pain and the suffering you had during that time. A magnitude of 7.8 struck Nepal on April 25, 2015, the quake was followed by hundreds of aftershocks, and only 17 days later, there was another major quake, a magnitude 7.3 temblor. Thirty-nine districts with a population of 8 million people were affected, hundreds of thousands of people lost everything and faced extreme poverty, more than 600,000 homes were destroyed and more than 288,000 were damaged and was a really hard & challenging time for we Nepalese, but we fought together and then after a few times, everything was going back to normal and if we see today and make a comparison, then we are going in a good pace. 

I am not trying to compare this pandemic COVID-19 with these above examples, but what I am trying to do is to show, to make you feel that this pandemic too shall pass. We should not be worried about the outcome after this pandemic as everything will be back to normal or maybe better than normal like it happened in the past.

With faster communication, the risk of panic is high as the misinformation about the virus is spreading at the same pace as the virus. But one should remind themselves that if you are going through a bad time, it is for sure you will go through a good time sooner. If there is a possibility of something negative, there is a possibility of something positive as well.


Spread positivity, positive vibes rather than the negativity, panic and the infodemic of misinformation.

STAY HOME.
STAY SAFE.
MAINTAIN SOCIAL DISTANCING AND
THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
THIS TOO SHALL PASS &
THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
TAKE CARE!!

COVID-19 & Our Role

We are always ready to do the things that are said not to be done & then we regret later and realize. The perfect example can be of Italy, where citizens even after being warned about the outbreak of CoronaVirus didn't take things seriously and went against the things that were said not to be done and now they are regretting their decisions. The best part is that Italy's citizens have learned from their mistakes & realized their mistakes and now are telling the world not to repeat the same mistake as it will be a regretful decision in the near future.

Realization is of two types:-

• Primary Realization
• Secondary Realization

Primary Realization:- It can also be called as self-realization. This type of realization is quite a long-lasting one. Let me clear this with an example. Suppose, I was told by many not to trust & not to give importance and time to everyone around because not everyone deserves my time & importance and I should invest time on myself but I was like, "no, it's okay, they deserve it" and I didn't listen to them. And now I realized that "ah, they were right" and now I will not be trusting, giving time & importance to everyone around and will be focusing on myself more. This kind of realization is the primary realization or self-realization i.e. first I experienced and then I realized I was wrong & I learnt a lesson. In most of the cases, self-realization might be necessary, but not always.

Secondary Realization:- It is a kind of realization where one realizes things said by others i.e. let's take the same example as above. Suppose, I was told by many not to trust & not to give importance and time to everyone around because not everyone deserves my time & importance. And considering their views, suggestions, & experiences I started focusing on myself and I didn't give time & importance to everyone around. So, as a result, I am with myself more and I focused on those who really deserve my time & importance. But this type of realization sometimes might not be the long-lasting one, as I haven't experienced the things in real and I am just considering the views and ideas of others. But sometimes the secondary- realization is better than the primary realization.

Now let's relate these realizations with the CoronaVirus outbreak especially in Italy. Italy, despite of secondary advice (i.e. secondary realization - WHO warned everyone about the outbreak of CoronaVirus and how it can be transferred), they chose to be serious about it and we can see the effect of that choice. That's why I mentioned sometimes the secondary-realization is better than the primary realization and sometimes the primary realization is a regretful choice.

Italy has realized their choice and now wants every one of us to learn and follow through the secondary realization in this pandemic. It is not necessary, if you or people in your surroundings are not affected, it can be considered safe, The necessary & important thing is

• How you start taking care of yourself and the people around you. 
• How you support the government by staying at home and implementing the social-distancing.
• To avoid rumors.
• To stop black marketing.
• To follow the precautions given by WHO.
• To make yourself clean.
• Avoid large gatherings.

Also, I would like to share the precautions given by WHO

Prevention is always better than cure. Stay safe, stay healthy. Getting offices, colleges & schools closed down is not a vacation leave. Don't take things in the wrong way. Everyone is responsible, so everyone should work as a team and fight this pandemic. 

Staying at home doesn't mean you don't have anything to do or you can't help people around you. You can help a lot of people around you just by sharing necessary posts, making awareness TikTok videos,  sharing authorized and real news.

And you can invest time in yourself staying at home in this lockdown by reading books, meditating, spending time with families, creating meaningful contents and many more.

You can't go and make a positive case into negative, but you can reduce the number of positive cases around yourself. Stay safe, stay healthy.

Bring Out The Comrade

I am not the kind of person who keeps reviewing the movies and writes about it. But sometimes there are some movies which captivate me like I can't stop myself from sharing my views and adding up some kind of info into it so that it might help my readers and it might make some kind of impact on everyone around. This will be my second blog on movies and the first South Indian movie, "DEAR COMRADE". First of all special thanks to Bharat Kamma sir for writing and directing such a great movie. And also would like to congratulate you and all the other members who helped to make this a great movie.

Most of us watch movies for enjoying some kind of action, romance, thrills, and dramas. But some of the movies are not just limited to these things. Sometimes they give us a life long lesson. This movie "DEAR COMRADE" is a full combination of action, romance, thrills, dramas and also a life long lesson. For someone over there this movie might just be like recalling their unsuccessful relationship or for some, it might be an example of true friendship and love and many more readers, many more views and perspectives. So just leave this here.

The thing which captivated me the most about this movie was that why for the sake of this so-called society we should hide something which is not a thing to be forgiven and to kill one's dream. Sexual harassment is not a thing which can be forgiven just for the sake of this so-called society or just for the sake of one's pride in this society. One simply can't misuse their power and ruin someone's future and also every one of us who tries to stop them from expressing their emotions showing them a fear of the society and the pride of the family are also the ones to be equally blamed.  

We live in a society where instead of supporting someone we start judging them, we start talking about them and also we start making them feel guilty about the thing which they haven't done. We are not ready to hear the full story from both sides and we make judgments. I would love to share an experience that I and some NGO members (Behbood The Society) discussed a week ago. Our president shared a video and asked us if anyone is willing to have a discussion on that video. The video title was "DOES MARITAL RAPE TRULY EXIST"? In this video, the guy interacts with the people around and tries to know their views. It was shocking that most of the people were like we don't need any consent from our wives to have sex. And they say it is not marital rape. She is married to me so I have a right to have sex with her even if she doesn't have consent. This was really disgusting. Someone is not marrying you so that you can legally rape her. And even after if a wife can't tolerate her husband's pressure & decided to divorce, this so-called society will blame the wife and make her feel guilty about her decision which was not an easy decision for her to make. And in most cases, not only the society but even the family members tries to make her feel guilty about her decision. Why can't we just try to hear and understand the truth? Why do we give more importance to the people around us than ourselves? Why do we value our pride so much that we can let our child suffer throughout their life and let a criminal or a rapist or a marital rapist free and let them destroy other's life too?       

These things do exist in our societies as well. But due to fear of the society and also the fear of families pride, they can't open up their emotions, their pain and such activities keep growing because there is no one to support the victims or in most of the cases even the parents don't let their child express any kind of such cases for the sake of their pride in this so-called society. But guys the thing that actually matters is not what the society will think but what you think because do you want to live with that pain throughout your life and do you want others to suffer as well or you want to live freely without any guilt and live your passion and dream.

Everyone is a comrade from inside but they only feel it when someone harms their family or their loved ones. But why can't we feel it for a random person who is suffering in our neighborhood, in public transport, in public areas and most importantly for a person next to us?

Speak out loud your pain, your emotions. There are still some good human beings who can feel you and are ready to support you and fight for your justice. Greatness is not only when you help someone you know but it is when you help anyone randomly without expecting anything in return.

Future Recruitment.

We are living in an era where the feature phones are replaced with smartphones, desktops with laptops, books with ebooks and such transformations are growing in every field. In this process of transformation, AI (Artificial Intelligence) is playing an important role in every field. Organizations these days are using new techniques for recruitment. The organizations now are more focused on advanced technologies for meeting the advancement in the world.

• Use of AI.
• Goodbye to Paper Resume.
• Video Interviews.
• Social Media.

Use of AI - AI stands for Artificial Intelligence. It executes the tasks that are usually carried out by humans. It helps to scan the CV's of hundreds of candidates and selects according to the commands inputted into the software. It has reduced the work for the organizations and also has saved a lot of time in previewing the CV. It helps candidates in many ways like the chatbot are always there to answer you right when you need them and it never takes a day off which means its always ready to answer you. Also, AI removes biasness as many organizations recruiters make their own judgments which are sometimes based on their mood and they can reject the most deserving candidate just because of their mood, but AI never does this. 

Goodbye to Paper Resume - This is the thing which I too experienced as a part of my circular when I was in the 3rd semester of my bachelor's. We were supposed to make a video resume and submit it to the faculty. She made us do this because the new era is demanding such a kind thing for recruiting and so she wanted us to be ready for such changes. In a video resume, it helps the recruiter to identify a lot of things about the candidate like confidence, communicating skills and many more. It also reduces the copy-pasting of the resume and makes it interesting as well.

Video Interviews - Many companies, first of all, takes the online test and then select the candidates and then ask for the video interviews. Such companies are not located nearby which saves time and money for the company as well as the candidate as they should not wait in the long queue for the interview and also should not go to the other city just for the interview. 

Social Media - This is the most important factor which now influences job seekers job i.e. with the help of AI, the companies can monitor your behavior and what kind of posts you share which helps them to know your behavior and your area of interest and also helps to find whether you will be suitable for the job or not and also the apps like LinkedIn is playing an important role in recruiting.

These are few advancements that the companies are taking in order to recruit candidates in the coming time. Just be sure that your any social media post don't affect your job in the future and also be prepared and updated with the advancement in the recruitment process so that if you have to do any video interviews or if you have to make any video resume, you can do it like a pro and fit in the job.